A discussion on how EVERYONE is an ‘influencer’ in their own way. Plus, thoughts on how sharing our authentic selves and being vulnerable can help others work through their own struggles. All in an effort to INFLUENCE FOR GOOD.
I’ve been blogging for 10 years.
From barely a teenage to my mid-twenties.
So needless to say, a lot has changed over the past decade.
Luckily, almost all of it has been for the better.
But in 100% transparency…it took almost all of those 10 years for those changes to take place.
From the Past to Now
How I’ve changed over the past 10 years is ASTRONOMICAL.
And most of those positive changes came from immense struggle…not all of which I shared publicly when I was in the thick of them.
Being a blogger, “influencer”, whatever you want to call it…basically someone who has on online presence, you’re subject to a lot of scrutiny. Specifically, from people who have what I like to call ‘keyboard courage’.
Keyboard courage is when you have a ton of courage to say mean, hurtful, and judgmental things behind the anonymity of your computer screen and faceless accounts.
And in my younger years, the thought of dealing with these people kept me from feeling confident enough to be fully transparent with everything going on in my life. I thought I could “talk the talk” without fully “walking the walk”.
But people knew. They weren’t stupid. Inauthenticity is like a scarlet letter on your chest.
It’s very easy for people to tell when something is wrong and when you’re not practicing what you preach.
The truth is, I never intended to be inauthentic, I just thought I could promote what I knew was right in terms of wellness and healthy living without necessarily following through on it myself.
Maybe that was because of my youth, naivety, and the mental health struggles I was dealing with, but one thing I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older and matured is that authenticity is KEY. In ALL aspects of life.
Expo East Influencer Summit
I recently had the opportunity to attend the Influencer Summit at Expo East and was inspired right off the bat (literally from the “theme” of the summit itself) to strive for more authenticity in my business and public presence.
The discussions at the summit made me TOTALLY rethink my brand. It inspired me to shift my style of sharing and WHAT I share in general.
The more good I put into the world, the more I will get back. And MAN I’ve been getting a lot of good lately. All of which is a total result of changes in myself.
I am WELL for the first time since my early teens. And wellness to me isn’t what you may typically think. I am not the fastest I’ve ever been. I’m not the strongest. I don’t necessarily “look” the part of the wellness influencer. BUT I do embody my new idea of “wellness”.
I am pursuing my passions unequivocally and only doing things that make me feel ALIVE.
I am nourishing my body and mind on a daily basis.
I am striving for balance in all things….and sometimes I’m not balanced at all.
I am perfect at nothing, but willing to try anything and everything.
I am medication FREE for the first time in 10 years (for 4 months now!) because of the work I’VE DONE on myself and for myself.
And I’m now convinced that sharing my story, fully and honestly, is the best way to help others. To let others know “hey this is where I’ve been….and THIS is where I am now. Things can and WILL get better.”
I know words don’t mean much, but I hope people can feel the happiness radiating off my nowadays…maybe that will change their mind about the fate of their own life.
Sharing is EMPOWERING. Connection is fulfilling and so KEY to thriving as a human.
And that is my mission moving forward with Healthy Helper.
My tagline as always been Health, Happiness, & Helping Others….for my 3 greatest passions leading a healthy life, pursuing happiness, and helping others on their own journeys.
And while I think I’ve been somewhat successful with these things…Now that I embody all 3 fully and authentically in my own life, I think I can have a greater impact.
Blogging Then VS. Now
When I first started my blog, it was a means of connection for me. I struggled a lot with isolation because of mental health struggles and blogging afforded me an outlet to connect with others.
Now, I am incredibly present in my daily life and in connecting with others that I actually find it hard to be online as much as I plan. I have so much to share but feel like I have less time to do it. I guess that’s what REALLY living will do to you. And of course, it’s not a bad thing. But it does mean I don’t get to share as much or as often as I’d like.
So now when I do share things whether here on the blog or in a quick Instagram post, I have some criteria for myself.
I ask myself…
Is this authentic? Is it true to me? Is it something I personally believe in?
Is it helpful? Is potentially impacting others in a positive way? Or is it causing harm?
Because the truth is…we’re ALL influencers. Whether you have 10 followers, or 10,000, or 10,000,000. The energy you put out into the world affects others whether you want it to or not. And I’m not just talking about social media.
It’s the difference between striking up a conversation with a stranger on the bus that looks distressed vs. ignoring them and minding your own difference that could make a HUGE difference. A life or death difference.
It certainly did in my life during my first suicide attempt. I am forever grateful to the 4 people who stopped their lives to care for a stranger they didn’t even know.
YOU can be that for someone else. Even if it’s not as serious of a situation, you can be the light in someone’s day.
And that’s what I am striving to be now. I am hoping my story can help others.
As cliche as it sounds, things get better. They can and WILL BE amazing. I think about all the things I accomplished living in such a defeated, hollow state for my teens and early 20s and it feels me with EXCITEMENT for what I can do now that I’m FULLY PRESENT.
Life in color, friends.
So keep sharing. Share wins. Share failures. Don’t sugarcoat or just a post a highlight reel.
The world needs ALL of you. Everyone can be an ‘influencer’ if you live your life in a way that brings others hope and inspiration for their own lives.
I am an openbook (now).
Feel free to share feedback and ask me any questions you may have in the comments below!
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